Thursday, March 6, 2008

Never Compromise, Settle, Give Up, Give In.....

Today I got one of my favorite email newsletters. It was from Barbara Winter, the queen of Joyfully Jobless. She is truly one of my heroes. In it she quotes Steve Jobs from his famous commencement address at Stanford, "The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know it when you find it. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle."
So true as I realized tonight about my recent dating history. While I would rather not bring up that crazy article again about women and settling, I must. Where I think Ms. Gottlieb is wrong is in assuming women have such great choices in unappealing men and that it's just as easy as picking our fugly of choice. Uh, no. What I see is that women from days of old have been settling for really bad pickings just to say they are in relationships. Like my married sister who claims that living life with one person for almost twenty years now is so great but is on antidepressants because of a husband she calls, "Morbid Man." I mean really, where are all these old, fat, balding dudes who treat us like gold? My attempts at being nice, making excuses, compromising, being forgiving, etc. have resulted in men who: don't speak English well (and I mean those born and raised in this country), have bad breath, stutter, are so short and slight in build but big in ego they remind me of Frankie Lymon, are angry Catholics who scrub down after sex, can't get it up, have children (especially more than one), suggest going to a strip club on a first date, are too cheap or don't know how to tip at a restaurant, only text message rather than call for a date, suggest having an illegitimate child because they think it would be attractive... They have all been assholes. Believe me, nothing is worse than feeling like you got slighted by one of these! Go ahead, seek out what you want in life with perseverance. Even if you don't get it, at least you tried.

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4 comments:

Food Rockz Man said...

Does this include your recent trip to LOVAH-ville? I hope not . . . sounded like you had a great time! I think the "short and slight in build " thing must be why I'm still single . . . ouch! You're killin' me over here.

Katy said...

Amen Sister... Amen.

DC Newbie said...

Couldn't agree more! I'd rather be by myself and happy than in an unhappy relationship...besides, I'm way too picky about sharing my bed (I love to stretch out) to allow just anyone in!

City Girl DC said...

FRM- while I did have a good time in Lovahville, all good things must come to an end. And no, being short and slight is not the problem. It's the really overstuffed ego and loud mouth of the dude I knew!