Monday, November 16, 2009

A Single Girl's Best Friend

I've decided that I'm adding to the list of the single girl's best friends. Other than her girlfriends of course, there is the gay guy friend, the straight guy she isn't attracted to, and her hair stylist. I now realize there is another: the married guy who feels guilty for not being what you want and need and for attempting to cheat on his wife and kids. Yes, he must have kids. This makes for even greater guilt and the perfect situation for you. The most significant line in this scenario is, "attempting to cheat." He must feel as if he can cheat with you but, you must never allow this shameful deed. That would ruin the whole friendship, you reason to him. You would never want to put him in such a terrible situation. You care about him that much. And really, it's not like you pursued him. They always find you - at work, the grocery store, the bank, the bar, a friend's party....As far as he's concerned, you 'go with the flow' at all times. You know all the cool places in the city for drinks, dining, dancing - places he's never been. You are open, fun, carefree, and can talk about anything....except his family issues. When it comes to that, it's a don't ask, don't tell situation. You just want to make sure he's having fun. And of course, he's having fun as long as you're having fun. And you're having fun as long as he's buying drinks, dinner, movie tickets, and giving you a ride home at the end of the night to make sure you get home safely. Yes, home to do what and who the hell you choose. Marriage really does work.

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Anonymous said...

That's funny but it is interesting how many married men spend so much time with women other than their wives.

Anonymous said...

Do married men really do that on the regular? His poor wife and children!!

On the flip side, I have a girlfriend that is dying to "get down" with her professor...he is married but does not have kids. She will probably want pointers on how to get his attention. She may pester you for help. Please ignore her!

My only caution is to be careful letting him drive you home after you have been drinking. Rape can occur...with men you trust.

City Girl DC said...

Anonymous - Yes, this happens quite a bit. Married men seem to enjoy having separate social lives from their wives. And thanks for the word of caution! I'm very careful with who I get into a car with. These guys are strictly friends, which is the only way to go. Tell your friend she should forget about getting down with that professor.