Bad Behavior

I have seriously had enough of bad male behavior. At this point I should probably just resign myself to hanging out with Mitch at gay bars like Halo as I did last night. It'll be good for my wallet too since they're running a $5 drink special for the next five months in honor of their five year anniversary. The drink changes every night and last night was cosmo night. Not exactly sure how many I had but let's just say I had enough that there was no way I could have responded to a 10:30 am text from a guy that read: Brunch? This is a guy I gave my number to recently. He seemed normal enough but apparently not. He has now texted me twice to ask me out. And he's asking not only on the day he wants to go out, but a mere hours before. Unbelievable! This kind of behavior is only acceptable from family and friends. What would make a guy think that he can get away with that especially when we haven't even been on one date? I was shocked the first time he did it and politely told him later that day that I already had plans. When he did it today, I was just disgusted and swiftly deleted the text. I recently blogged about how a guy will ask for your number if he's really interested. But what I failed to point out is that this gesture is just the first step in determining his interest. You then have to find out if the guy knows how to use your number or any other contact information. It seems as though technology has made idiots of men. No, you should not text, email, IM, or facebook someone for a date! Period. I've probably mentioned how I once knew a guy who tried to have text message sex with me. How weird is that?

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The Tourists Have Descended

I've been in DC for seven years now and have come to understand that this time of year creeps up like a fox. It's a subtle invasion detected by the presence of children and clueless people in
t-shirts and shorts no matter how cold it is. Yes, it's tourist season. I've also noticed that it's become more annoying to me over the years. As I blogged about last year, the strollers are just part of it. It's also all the standing around in herds or just casually walking and clogging up the streets and Metro especially during rush hour periods. Maybe DC government should enact some tourist laws. You know, like not allowing them to come out at certain times. Ok, maybe that's a bit extreme but why can't a girl enjoy spring in DC in peace?

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Just Not That Into You

I finally saw the movie, He's Just Not That Into You. I've been familiar with the term since it debuted on Sex and the City a few years ago. I didn't find it to be a revelation but many women did and I can understand why. If for no other reason than to save us the unnecessary talking, stressing, moaning, crying....whatever, over a guy who is not interested, I'm all for that. I for one, have wasted way too much time over that and the longer you are single, whether in a long-term relationship or just dating and not getting what you want, it is SO not worth it. Might as well spend that time talking about the failed American economy or if Rachel Ray will ever shut the fuck up. Anyway, my main beef is that I thought the movie should have been called, How to Tell If Somebody Is Not Into You. While the focus was on women, there were a few man lessons in there and in general, the movie provides good illustrations for guys and girls. The whole Scarlet Johansson character should definitely teach guys a lesson or two about women who just want to be friends. I've been there many times and don't get why the guy doesn't comprehend that all I want is friendship. And when it comes to women, I truly believe the old rules apply. When he wants you and only you, it will be obvious. We should never settle for anything less or try to force a decision. If you have to wait for that ship to come in until the dock rots then so be it. Just make sure you're out there having fun and enjoying life in the meantime.

In fact, there was a line in the movie that played out for me over the past few days. Rule: If a guy is really interested in you, he will ask for your number rather than just give you his number.

In the past 3-5 days, I've gone out and been given several cards. I've learned over the years to trash them because as any seasoned DC dater knows, that's just par for the course. There are lots of card tossers out there. However, on Friday night I was asked by a very cute government worker who was out with co-workers celebrating a birthday if he could have my number. Now, when a woman is interested, she will give out her number. If not, she will make up any old excuse not to - can't find a pen, don't have a working number, makes it a policy not to give out number to strangers - and this tells the guy something upfront. It also puts the ball in his court which means he is confident enough to accept said ball. A day later, I get a call from this guy and we have scheduled a date for later in the week. There you have it. I'll keep you posted on how things go!

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Baltimore? Oh Yes!

Update: Unfortunately, Frankie Knuckles was not the featured DJ due to illness, but Timmy Regisford of Club Shelter skillfully stepped in. With N'Dea Davenport's short but sweet performance, this was a great night and well worth the cover given that proceeds were donated to NextAid. Good fun for a good cause!

Ok, so I live in DC. That much should be obvious. Going to Baltimore is not really on the table - ever. Not unless there is a really good reason. And tonight there really is a good reason. Frankie Knuckles, legendary Chicago house DJ, will be at the Paradox. I've never been there but it's one of those places I've been meaning to get to. Ultra Nate is the infamous DJ behind the theme song of one of my all-time favorite movies, Party Girl, and reigns the helm at Paradox. In addition to Frankie, my girl N'Dea Davenport of the Brand New Heavies will be performing as well. I've seen the Heavies at the 9:30 Club and they are as amazing live as on CD largely because of her amazing voice. This is the making of a great night and I plan to be there with dancing shoes on! From what I understand this party is BYOB, so I will be armed with the requisite good stuff!

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Sunday Night in DC

After a weekend juggling engagements with four different guys (when it rains, it pours!), I desperately needed a solo night out and wanted to take advantage of the warm air. I decided on Eighteenth Street Lounge. I figured it had been sufficient enough time to go after my last encounter in which I had a major issue. In general, the music is always good, there's sufficient room to mix and mingle, and there's always an interesting crowd. For instance, there was the 7 foot tall transvestite who told me my haircut was "so cute", the 19 year old Asian guys pop locking in the corner, the off work bartenders I've known for years, and the goofy hipsters/IT guys by day. I started off solo, but as usual, I ran into people I know and ended up talking and dancing the night away. I was still ready to go after the club closed when my other gay guy friend, Derek called to see if I wanted to go to The Diner. I'm always amazed that The Diner can be packed on a Sunday or any weekday for that matter at 3 am. It's great for people watching. I came home with leftover pasta, put on a Sex and the City DVD and contemplated the past few days. While I'm sure I would never keep in touch with any of those 20-somethings, it's nice to know that there are still some available guys out there.

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Spring Is In the Air

What is it about this time of year? It seems as though when spring nears, men are out and on the hunt and they tend to be young 20-somethings. I blogged about this phenomenon last year at about this same time. In the past few weeks I have been approached by and/or gone out with several of them. Given that I'm in my 30's, I do feel the need to set boundaries. I won't go out with anyone under 25. I have a hard time setting an upper limit though. I would say 50 but last year I went out with a 56 year old German neurosurgeon. We had great fun but he did feel like a father and that was rather creepy. But anyway, getting back to the young guys. You gotta love them. They're so cute and eager to please. It's also funny how they like the idea of going out with an "older woman". Tonight I went out to dinner for the first time at the The Source with a 27 year old. The food was great and I love the decor. I may be older but this guy has been married and divorced and has a child. I'm still pondering my adulthood. So, wait...am I now a cougar?

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Dine Out for a Good Cause

I typically just dine out due to hunger, boredom, or laziness. But I was reminded this evening of the Dining Out For Life event this Thursday, March 5th for a good cause while eating out after a late night out. From 25 to 100% of your bill at participating restaurants will be donated to Food and Friends which provides meals and support to people living with life-challenging illnesses. So, if you can, eat out on Thursday and eat, drink, and be merry knowing that you will be giving to a great cause.

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